Save it for the best time and place. Timing is everything. Do it when they're at their best to receive it. Wrong timing means conflict.
"There is a time to be silent and there is a time to speak." Ecclesiastes 3:7 (NCV)
"There's a right time and a right way for everything, even though, unfortunately, we miss it for the most part." Ecclesiastes 8:6 (Mes)
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Pray and plan. Plan what you're going to say, and how you're going to say it. Pray and ask for wisdom.
"Jesus said, 'I have not spoken on my own power. Instead, the Father who sent me told me what I should say AND how I should say it."' John 12:49 (GW)
"Intelligent people think before they speak; then what they say is more persuasive." Proverbs 16:23 (TEV)
"Everything you say should be kind and well thought out so that you know how to answer everyone."
Colossians 4:6 (GW)
Colossians 4:6 (GW)
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Empathize with their needs first. Start with their agenda. Not yours. Learn their needs. Let them speak first without interruption. Summarize and paraphrase back.
"Speak. . . only what is helpful for building others up, according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen." Ephesians 4:29 (NIV)
A
Affirm the positive alternative. Transition from what's wrong to what's right. What you hold up is what they move toward. Don't tell it like it is. Tell it like it could be. 1. Explain benefits. 2. Say it like it could be. Say it offensively. It will be received defensively. 3. Offer hope.
"When wise people speak, they make knowledge attractive." Proverbs 15:2 (TEV)
"A mature person is known for his understanding. The more pleasant his words, the more persuasive he is." Proverbs 16:21 (TEV)
"We have this HOPE as an anchor for the soul, firm and secure!" Hebrews 6:19 (NIV)
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Keep calm and don't argue.
"Those who are sure of themselves do not talk all the time, and people who STAY CALM have real insight." Proverbs 17:27 (TEV)
"Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry."
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